An image of the following text: "In a world without love the passion to connect can be replaced by the passion to possess. —Bell Hooks"

What Is A Situationships?

I came across the following quote while flipping through my notes in Bell Hooks’ All About Love, “In a world without love the passion to connect can be replaced by the passion to possess.” Hooks is referring to the possession of objects in this chapter but I immediately thought about people when I first read it. Isn’t a situationship just a situation where people possess/hold on to each other, even though they’re not in love with one another? Or maybe they’re in love and just lack passion for each other.

The definition of the word “situationship” varies for many, so here’s how I define it: a romantic entanglement (thanks, Jada!) that involves people who simply exist together. They’re not in a relationship with each other but they’re also not, not in a relationship with each other. They’re people who are content with each other’s presence, even if that presence doesn’t fulfill them. It might bring temporary moments of satisfaction like an orgasm or a listening ear, all of which can make someone feel fulfilled when they are really experiencing satisfaction.

Well, that’s it. I don’t have a lesson to teach. I was just thinking about that and wanted to jot it down. How do you interpret Hooks quote?

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